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August 2006

Reasons I have no time to post

by Marilyn on August 10, 2006

For a compulsive blogger such as myself who formerly posted something new (even if it sucked) every single day, this lazy posting schedule I’ve adapted is very guilt-inducing. And kind of horrifying at the same time. But I assure you I do have many, many good excuses. Some are obvious, some are… less so.

  • Liam - Like…duh! I should have been more aware the impact a new baby would have on my ability to post or do simple things like brush my teeth. But the fact remains that Liam is accountable for about 90% of my slackage these days. I guess I can’t call it slackage, since I am doing *something* (taking care of him), but the rapidness with which the hours melt away is sort of frightning. As he’s getting older, it’s easier to put him down, both to sleep and during alert time as well. He’s really taking a shine to his Kick n’ Play bouncer seat. It’s his favorite spot to sit in in the evenings. The whole thing lights up and plays music when he kicks and it’s so cute to see his amazement at this. But more often than not, he’ll fall asleep in it within about 10 minutes. Then it’s back to the Pack n’ Play for naptime for him!
  • Pumping - Ugh. Yes, still with the pumping. Not so much with the breastfeeding. Though Liam is getting a lot bigger these days. He had his one month appointment on Tuesday and weighs 7 pounds 8 ounces now. This means I need to ramp up the breastfeeding practice. I’ve been very negligent in that area but I’m trying to get in at least one session a day, if not a session each time he’s hungry. Pumping takes a LOT of time. It’s not just the pumping time, but also the time needed to deal with the pumped milk (be it transferring to the fridge, or transferring from fridge to freezer, or transferring from fridge to bottles), the cleaning of the bottles, containers and pump parts… whew! Which reminds me… time to pump again! Be back in a bit…
  • Lost Wallet - I’ve returned from my pumping and ready to get on with the list. Alas, it’s a very sad entry; I lost my wallet on Sunday. Entirely stupid on my part. But with my scattered brain these days, is it any wonder? I’ve ditched the purse for the diaper bag in recent weeks so it’s been an adjustment. On Sunday, at the mall, I wanted to use a gift card I had for Keva Juice to get a smoothie for the three of us to share. I left Kile with Liam in the stroller and got the wallet out of the diaper bag while Harry and I went to get the smoothie. We returned, moments later and proceeded to share the smoothie amongst us before moving on to browse a few other stores. Except that I? Had left my wallet on the bench we were sitting on. And I didn’t realize I was missing my wallet for several HOURS. We went back and looked all over for it, left our phone number at mall security and at several stores. But now, four days later, I have to admit that the wallet is long gone. Along with $11 in cash, all my credit cards (including my beloved PayPal card), Harry and I’s social security cards, Harry and I’s insurance cards, my checkbook, my Smith’s grocery discount card, library card, driver’s license, and a good collection of portraits of Harry. AUGH! I’m just sick over it. I’ve never lost a wallet before and it sucks something fierce. (Let’s not ask about how I’m driving around without my license right now.)
  • My Desicated Toe - Do you remember me saying something well over a month ago about me hurting my toe? Yeah, I didn’t break it, but I made it awful mad. The nail turned blackish and it seemed to be then a magnet for stubbing it on things. I’d bang it into anything that jumped in my way. So last night, the nail decided enough was enough and started the seperation process. :P Ick! I’ve put a bandaid on it because it’s not ALL the way off and it totally freaks me out. And don’t ask what this (and the wallet, for that matter) has to do with me not posting… but there you have it. Oh well, at least the stupid toe doesn’t hurt so much anymore. Leave it to me to bust a perfectly good toenail in the middle of summer.

That’s all. Or at least all I can think of right now. Because Liam is stirring and probably is jonesing for some milk and I’m all distracted and trying to finish this up before he completely wakes up and starts to cry and we all know I just can’t take that. We can only hope that I’ll be able to post again soon (and with pictures) and have something far less lame to talk about.

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Eight Years Ago

by Marilyn on August 8, 2006

Our RingsEight years ago, I woke up in San Jose, California, in my parents house, in my old bedroom. It was still dark outside; I was the only one awake. I was way too excited to be tired. I had things to do, after all. I took a bath in the tub, using some fantastic smelling bubble bath a good friend of mine had given me. I shaved my legs and forced myself to take my time, to soak and relax. It would be the last relaxing moment I’d have to myself for hours. After the soak, I put on some jean shorts, and a button down short sleeved blouse. Downstairs, I realized I should probably have some juice and a bagel. I wasn’t the least bit hungry, but I didn’t want to be passing out from hunger later on. By then, my father was awake and my mother and sister were stirring. Good thing; we needed to leave the house soon. My dad drove my sister, mother and I to the hair salon in the rental Lincoln Town Car. That felt pretty luxurious. The sky was overcast with fog, a common occurance in the Bay Area during the summer months. The hair salon had just opened, special for us. I already knew what I wanted done with my hair, we’d been in a few weeks prior and had a “dry run” on my hairdo. We had the veil with us, of course, so it could be incorporated.

Kiss the brideMy tummy started to ache. Nerves. That often happens when I’m over-excited and today was as exciting as anything I’d ever been through. Getting my hair done was a blur. It was a short time later that my sister and I were bundling into the Town Car yet again for the ride to the church. Was the dress in the car? Yes, in the trunk. Had anyone heard from Kile? No, not yet. At the church, we found my friends and I started to get ready with their help. I didn’t realize how much of their help I was going to need to get into that dress, get the stockings attached to the garter belt, applying makeup without spilling any on my dress. We were running behind when the photographer came to see if we were ready. Kile was there and ready for our pictures. My mom hadn’t arrived yet, and she had my pearl necklace that I was going to wear. I was worried about not having the necklace on in my pictures. Luckily, she showed in the nick of time and I had my necklace.? The pictures were done outside of the church, surrounded by greenery and our family and friends.? As soon as I saw Kile, my nerves settled.? Once again, he was my rock.

After the vowsAfter the pictures, I was hustled back inside the church.? Guests were starting to arrive and last minute preparations were in full swing.? Right at 11 o’clock am, my father knocked on the door of the room we were waiting in.? It was time.? As we walked around the building to the doors we were going to enter through, the sun peeked out from behind the fog.? Perfect timing.? The rest?? Was a fog in and of itself.? I vaguely recall walking down the aisle.? It was a catholic mass, so I have some recollection of sitting, standing, listening… the ceremony seemed to go on forever.? But I do remember how good it felt when the priest announced, “I now pronounce you man and wife.”? And seeing all the happy faces of our friends and family as they applauded us walking back down the aisle.? Stepping out into the sunshine, I felt as happy as I ever had up until that moment.

That was eight years ago, today.? I can’t believe it’s been eight years already, and at the same time, I can’t believe it’s only been eight years.? I feel like I’ve known you my whole life, Kile.? I’ve at least known you for the part of my life that counts.? And because of you, we have two achingly adorable little boys.? We’ve been through heaven and we’ve been through hell.? But I wouldn’t go through that with anyone else.? Let’s have many, many more years together, to grow and to love.? I love you, sweety.

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Time flies when you’re so tired you could cry

by Marilyn on August 4, 2006

It so cannot be Friday already.? I know what the calendar says, and even the programming on TV would lead you to believe it’s a Friday, but I’m not buying it.? No way it can be Friday already because I have gotten barely anything done all week long.? And by Friday I was going to at least have the laundry finished, as well as make some significant design work progress.

And?? I’ve done neither.

*sob*

On the GoRecovering from BlogHer is apparently more daunting than I had first thought.? Though I can hardly blame adorable little Liam.? We’re not up at night near as much as we would be with most babies.? But Liam is Special.? In fact, Wednesday night he slept from 11 until 4 in the morning!? And then through from there until 7:30, when I woke up ON MY OWN.? That is, without the sound of grunting and/or crying to wake me.? Do you have any idea how delicious that is??

So he hasn’t been bad at all at night.? But a touch on the needy side during the day.? Of course, I’m more than happy to tend to his ever whim.? Because a) he’s ADORABLE and b) I’ve waited for forever for this baby.? If he wants to be held for 6 hours of the day, he’s gonna get held and that’s all there is to that.? But I haven’t perfected the whole “performing normal duties while holding a baby” thing yet.? So nothing has gotten done.? Soon as he clears 8 pounds I can put him in the Bjorn while I go about my business.? That’ll be nice.

Still with the pumping.? We’ve returned the loaner pump and have now officially rented one.? I would love to try the Medela Symphony, but alas, it’s a Lactina.? Which is good because I adore the Lactina.? Which isn’t to say that I love pumping. I’m getting better about practicing the breastfeeding, but there are times I wonder if we’ll ever get it.? I start to wonder if I’ll be stuck pumping the REST OF MY LIFE. The skin on my fingers is raw from washing pump pieces and bottles all the time.? But on the other hand, I’ve got a freezer stash that would make most new mothers weep.

So yeah.? That’s my life these days.? Holding adorable (albeit grunty) newborns and pumping.? It’s a living.

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BlogHer ‘06 - The Wrap Up

by Marilyn on August 2, 2006

We’ve made it back home.  Exhausted and so completely overwhelmed, but home nonetheless.  How do you describe to those who didn’t go what BlogHer was like?  I don’t think you can.  But what I can do is give some of my impressions, now that I’ve had some time to digest everything.

  • No matter what, some people just aren’t going to “measure up” in person.  And you start to realize that maybe you built a lot of impressions up in your mind that just aren’t so.  And while these people are still fabulous in their own way, they ARE just average people.  And average people are as insecure as you are.  So it’s silly to be putting them on a pedestal or something.
  • Bloggers, as a whole, are a self-absorbed bunch.  This is not meant to be insulting or anything.  It’s just a fact.  I mean, we have to be self-absorbed to prattle on nearly every day about the minutae of our lives.  Whether or not we expect anyone to actually read it.  So therefore, it’s pretty interesting when you get a bunch of self-absorbed, socially awkward people together in one place.  No, make that VERY interesting.
  • I’m completely retarded for being so inept that I didn’t try to assert myself more, meet more people.  At least TRY to say “Hi” to someone who I considered to be an “a list” blogger.  I spoke briefly to Amalah on several different occasions, but I didn’t REALLY talk to her.  And I never got a picture taken with her.  In fact, I didn’t get a “one on one” picture with anyone and that’s just stupid.  I’m pretty mad at myself about that.  I mean, what a great opportunity and I was so introverted that I couldn’t even take advantage of it.  Bah.
  • I very nearly chickened out on introducing myself to Zoot.  I got to the conference pretty early on Friday morning, got some refreshment and sat at a table.  Where I proceeded to freak the heck out.  I didn’t recognize anyone and I felt like I stuck out like a sore thumb.  I was starting to contemplate my escape when I spotted Zoot.  And I sat there for another ten minutes trying to work up the nerve to go over and say hi.  I swear to God, I was arguing with myself (internally, of course) over this.  A simple thing like, “Hi!” became this huge deal.  But the good news is I did get up and I did walk over and say hi and she totally knew who I was and gave me a hug and the world righted itself once again.  But that?  Was HARD. 
  • But if I hadn’t introduced myself to Zoot, I wouldn’t have met Brit. And she is so fabulous, I don’t think I can totally explain it here.  We had a great time, hanging out.  And she let me pump in her hotel room which was VERY nice of her.  I wouldn’t have met Cagey either, and she was totally cool!  So now I have two new blogs to read that I wouldn’t have had before and I owe it all to my sucking it up and introducing myself.  Imagine all the other blogs I’d be reading right now if I had had the guts to introduce myself to more people?  The mind boggles. 
  • Someone wrote a really, really nasty post on their blog about mommy bloggers which everyone knew about by the end of the conference.  It was even mentioned during the mommy blogger session on Saturday morning.  I read the post and yeah, it’s offensive.  The thing is, I’m not bothered by about 90% of the post.  Yeah, she’s a total hater, but it’s her blog and that’s her perogative.  I could just about care less.  But the part where she says, “Go home already and let the rest of us eat, drink and be merry,” really sorta got on my nerves.  The hate I can get, but the intolerance and overtone of censorship is really, really uncalled for.  Who the hell is she to think that BlogHer wasn’t just as much for mommy bloggers as it was for hate-spewers like herself?  She just crossed the line on that one.  But… whatever.  I’m not going to link to it, becuase she TRULY doesn’t need more traffic. 
  • The Hyatt totally dropped the ball on this conference.  The sketchy internet access was bad enough.  But I’ve heard so many stories of awful hotel rooms that I have to wonder what this place was thinking.  You’re having a bunch of bloggers come into town and they all have laptops.  And some of them have HUGE audiences on the internet.  It just doesn’t seem to be good business sense on their part.  Everything else was nice.  The facilities were decent, the food was pretty good… but they should have paid attention to some more of these details.  I think the wireless internet issue is the biggest mistake they made.  THAT made me want to tear my hair out and then go find the manager and tear all their hair out too.
  • Yes, I still think Contrex water sucks and every time I saw a bottle of it for the rest of the weekend, I’d nearly gag. 
  • More on the anti-mommy blogger thing: someone during the final panel discussion introduced themselves as not being married or having any children (in essense, not a mommy blogger) in a sort of “thank god” sort of fashion and got some pretty decent applause for it.  That was pretty insulting.  WHAT is the problem?  I don’t see why mommy bloggers are so awful, do you?  Can’t we ALL just get along?
  • I skipped more sessions than I thought I would.  And I’m sure I should feel guilty for that, but I don’t.  Because usually when a session was being skipped, I was doing something else totally fun and/or relaxing.  And when I skipped out on the “Autonomy” session after lunch on Day 2, it was because the place was MAD PACKED.  Dooce was on the panel for that one and everyone and their dog was in there.  Making an already stuffy room unbearable so I *had* to escape.  Note to coordinators for next year’s conference:  air conditioning in the sessions is a very, very good idea. 
  • It’s good to have a series of hand gestures in place before something like this.  You know, just so you don’t announce in the lunch line in a not-so-quiet voice that, “Hey, isn’t that Heather??” Not that *I* did that or anything.  I’m just saying.
  • I’m sure I had so much more to say here, but I can’t think of anything right now and I’ve been writing this darned entry for four days now and it’s far past time I hit the publish button already.
  • Nothing can prepare you for how EXHAUSTING this conference is.  It’s all day, from 8am to at least 7pm.  And if we’d been staying at the hotel, and sans children, it would have been later.  MUCH later. And then to go home and have a new baby to deal with… by Sunday I was a waste of a human being.  In the car, on our insufferable seven-hour drive home, I could hardly keep my eyes open.  And I’m one of those people who can’t sleep in the car so it was torture.  I’m only just now starting to feel halfway normal.  I was SO tired.  I think by the last few hours of the conference I was running on pure caffeine alone.  Albeit, Pepsi brand caffeine.  Beggers can’t be choosers.

So that’s it.  BlogHer ‘06 is over.  Next year it’s in Chicago and I would so love to go.  But seeing as that’s a big trip, we’ll have to see how things work out.  I’d love to have another chance to hang out with these bloggers, maybe meet some new ones.  Because I’ll be remembering this for the rest of my life.  It was just THAT awesome.

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