Comments on: Anti-social http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/ making little kids cry since 1999 Mon, 13 Oct 2008 00:20:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Daisy http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8713 Daisy Fri, 28 Dec 2007 23:23:21 +0000 http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8713 I, too, keep to myself a lot. It takes energy to open up, and opening up our home takes even more. We've learned to be gracious hosts occasionally, and that will have to be enough. I, too, keep to myself a lot. It takes energy to open up, and opening up our home takes even more. We’ve learned to be gracious hosts occasionally, and that will have to be enough.

]]> By: Michelle http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8704 Michelle Thu, 27 Dec 2007 11:25:46 +0000 http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8704 There is a huge difference between anti social and introverted. And you, my wonderful friend, are just introverted. Or, as Zoot said, a homebody. I've gotten introverted too. It's just too hard to move every few years and leave people behind. So, I keep to myself. I just hope that by the time Paul retires from the Air Force, I'll remember how to make friends! :) There is a huge difference between anti social and introverted. And you, my wonderful friend, are just introverted. Or, as Zoot said, a homebody.
I’ve gotten introverted too. It’s just too hard to move every few years and leave people behind. So, I keep to myself. I just hope that by the time Paul retires from the Air Force, I’ll remember how to make friends! :)

]]> By: Zoot http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8703 Zoot Thu, 27 Dec 2007 11:10:52 +0000 http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8703 See - I like to think that I'm not anti-social, I'm a home-body. Is there a difference, or am I fooling myself? But really - my husband is the same way. It works okay for us now, but I can totally see where it could also be the death of us. See - I like to think that I’m not anti-social, I’m a home-body. Is there a difference, or am I fooling myself? But really - my husband is the same way. It works okay for us now, but I can totally see where it could also be the death of us.

]]> By: Loralee http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8702 Loralee Thu, 27 Dec 2007 03:28:50 +0000 http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8702 Extroverted people who needs friends to breathe (Me) suffer from the same issues...I have such a crazy side and baggage that I have been HURT and have HURT in return. I wish I was more capable of shutting myself off to avoid it. No can do. Sigh. My husband doesn't need friends at all...He needs maybe 1 percent of the social interaction that I do. He knows this and so he is extremely good at letting me have friends and go run around to meet the needs that he just isn't able or interested in filling. Plus, it means taking a lot of pressure off of himself. While grateful, I'm not totally sure how I feel about it, either. Hmm... Extroverted people who needs friends to breathe (Me) suffer from the same issues…I have such a crazy side and baggage that I have been HURT and have HURT in return. I wish I was more capable of shutting myself off to avoid it.

No can do. Sigh.

My husband doesn’t need friends at all…He needs maybe 1 percent of the social interaction that I do. He knows this and so he is extremely good at letting me have friends and go run around to meet the needs that he just isn’t able or interested in filling. Plus, it means taking a lot of pressure off of himself. While grateful, I’m not totally sure how I feel about it, either. Hmm…

]]> By: Andrea Payne http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8701 Andrea Payne Wed, 26 Dec 2007 23:38:19 +0000 http://slackermama.com/2007/12/26/anti-social/#comment-8701 I can say, I know how Kile feels. I am by nature a very social person, but my husband is defiantly not. We could have people in our house all the time and I would be happy. Large crowds or lots of people in a small space really bothers my husband. He is very content to have just us all the time. It is something we struggle with. The rules at our house, NO last minute guest(unless it's an emergency), we have to talk about who, how long, etc...., he has to have a way out if it gets to be to much, and there has to be a while between guest. Other than kids, we have only once had someone spend the night at our house. My advice, pray about it. You can still protect your heart from getting hurt, while having friends over. I do understand you not wanting to get hurt, but just remember God and Kile are both there to help. I hope this makes sense to you. I feel like I was just rambling a little. I can say, I know how Kile feels. I am by nature a very social person, but my husband is defiantly not. We could have people in our house all the time and I would be happy. Large crowds or lots of people in a small space really bothers my husband. He is very content to have just us all the time. It is something we struggle with. The rules at our house, NO last minute guest(unless it’s an emergency), we have to talk about who, how long, etc…., he has to have a way out if it gets to be to much, and there has to be a while between guest. Other than kids, we have only once had someone spend the night at our house. My advice, pray about it. You can still protect your heart from getting hurt, while having friends over. I do understand you not wanting to get hurt, but just remember God and Kile are both there to help. I hope this makes sense to you. I feel like I was just rambling a little.

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